Remedies for Healing a Hurt Heart

There is that one feeling that cuts deeper than a razor-sharp scalpel- hurt. Hurt is a consequence of love- love that you gave but never received in the way you hoped to. There are ways of coping with the pain inflicted by love. These are my self-discovered therapeutic remedies to refrain from imploding or exploding, or in extreme cases, both…

  • Let your mouth speak for your heart

If talking to someone aids you to express your love, it will also serve you well to express your hurt. No matter how deranged this may sound, talking to yourself or an inanimate object is also remedial. But if you’re bent on speaking to a mortal in the flesh, select that person with as much care and caution you would reinforce while selecting your wedding gown. Never seek sympathy, rather, seek counsel, warmth and understanding.

  • Let your eyes water and be your own comforter

Crying is a means of purging oneself of the debris of accumulated hurt. Doing it in solitude is most preferential to me because when I’m hurt, I feel like I am my own comforter and that my own heart understands the reason behind my tears better than anyone else would. Somewhere I read that “clouds burst when they can’t withhold their contents any longer, and so it is with us.”

  • Allow time to be your doctor

Just like a physical wound requires time and treatment to heal, so does an emotional one. Never pick at a scar that has closed after much ado. But remember that time doesn’t relieve you of the weight you are bearing. It just accustoms you to carrying it.

  • Learn to accept

Once Doctor Time has accomplished his job, you will be in the phase of accepting your altered state of emotional affairs. Never expect to be skyrocketed to Planet Euphoria in no time. Recovering from the sting of heartbreak is equable with recovering from a malady. Remember that your heart might still be fragile and vulnerable, so do not dive headfirst (or heart-first without using your head) into the pool of pleasure because you aren’t going to know whether it will suck you in and spit you out in a mortifying condition or cause you to hit the solid bottom. Accept what has been and hope in what is yet to be.

  • Move ahead and move on

Never let the past remind you that you were weak and broken. Rather, let it be a reminder that you fought that interior battle and have emerged triumphantly. The past is irreversible and unchangeable, so leave it be. Let the past follow you, but let the present live in you as you live in it, and let the future lead you. Move ahead and move on. Hurt can last only as long as you allow it to.


The Power of Music

“I was broken, I was choking, I was lost… this song saved my life…” — Simple Plan in “This Song Saved My Life”

When you’re down in the dumps and you need your thoughts to be put into words, but you just can’t seem to find the right ones, that’s one of the worst feelings- ever. But, what if you just huddle up in a corner, shut out the rest of the world awhile and turn up the music?

Sometimes, it’s just a marvel that there is someone else on the planet who doesn’t know of our existence, but is able to relate to you from his or her own experience.

There is no better expression of thoughts than in words, there is no better expression of words than in lyrics and there is no better expression of lyrics than in music.

Whether you’re feeling the pangs of a love that has been lost, the isolation from the world that you ironically have to call your own, the pulchritude of being in a lover’s arms or the ache of death, there is always a song- if not a person- that you turn to be solaced.

Music lacks not in expression and never fails to leave an impression. It can be the key to a person’s heart; it plays the strings of the soul and gives our life that required percussion.

It is the highest form of expression that can move one to cachinnation or tears. A song possesses the potential to mend a heart in smithereens, to foment the dying candle of hope, to provoke that incumbent release or to serve as a berceuse to beckon a restful slumber.

Forget the antidepressants and the painkillers, the melancholy and the moods. Why all that when you have music? It is a universal language that everyone understands.

In my own words,

“Music eases the heart when it is sore

And takes it to places it’s never been before.

If food’s for the body, then music’s for the heart.

It pulls you together when you feel broken apart.”